A healthy work/life balance is one that allows you to be successful at work, achieve the smooth running of the household, care for your children and let them know they are loved, yet which also allows you time to be yourself and to pursue the things that make you happy.‘Yeah, fine, you say to yourself. You, as a human being and a woman, are worth some time spent on yourself and on yourself alone.

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Of course you’d prefer to be with them for all those important moments of their young lives, but you can’t.

So you have to find a way to rationalize your feelings of guilt and live with them.

You probably try to offset this enforced time away from the kids by spending every spare minute with them when you’re not actually at work.

But, believe it or not, this isn’t always best for the kids, and it certainly isn’t best for you.

Happy kids are more often than not the product of happy moms.

And you’re not going to be happy if you’re permanently tired or feeling guilty or resentful.

So, what is this elusive healthy ‘work/life’ balance’, and how do you find it? It isn’t going to crawl out from under the sofa and present itself. First, you have to convince yourself that you are worth the effort.

If you’re a single mom, you’re probably a very busy lady.

You have to take on all the normal duties of parenthood alone, and you also have to assume the mantle of breadwinner and go out to earn a living.

At the end of the working day, when traditional bread winners come home and flop into an armchair or onto the couch with the newspaper and a glass of beer to await dinner, there’s no such luxury for you.

You come in from work, pick the kids up from the child minder, tidy the house after the morning chaos, and set about making the dinner. So you probably have a rueful laugh to yourself when you hear well meaning people tell you to find a good ‘work/life balance’!