He feels intimated when he has to speak to superiors.

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It reinforced my low self-esteem and self-worth that I couldn’t be as smart as those above me.

Later that night, at dinner, all the other general managers told me they thought it was a great idea and I should do it anyway.

One of those who agreed was our senior vice president for operations who also told me to do it and that he would back me up when the time came.

That gave me confidence and began to build my self-esteem.

An incident after my first season as vice president/general manager of my first baseball team almost took me down even further.

During my first season I came up with an idea to increase advertising revenue in our nightly game scorecard for the next season.I created a presentation for our organizational meetings in the fall where I could offer the concept to our principal owner and the four other general managers in our organization.Following my presentation, which I thought I did pretty well considering my extreme nervousness, our principal owner said, “Well, Skip, that’s a great idea, but, we don’t do it that way in Nashville (the home office and city that launched this group’s first baseball team).” That statement meant I wouldn’t be doing it in my city, either. I felt judged and demeaned in front of my bosses and peers.My idea worked like a charm and got me a bonus the next season.At a personal development seminar a few years later the presenter changed my life by offering the best piece of advice I’ve ever heard in this context.He said, “everyone is better than others at something and because of that we must be humble enough to realize that when we are in front of someone else, and for that reason, everyone deserves our respect and appreciation.” And, it really doesn’t matter what that is, or even if it’s important to us.