According to the lyrics of a 1960s song penned by Sammy Cahn and Jimmy van Heusen, "Love is lovelier the second time around." In reality, however, psychologist and couples therapist Dr.Joel Block cautions that not every rekindled romance with an ex is guaranteed a happier outcome than what happened before.

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Examples of this might include different interests, goals and values, incompatible schedules, dishonesty, infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, or just not being ready for the responsibilities of a serious relationship.

Ask yourself what has changed while you've been apart that has affected or resolved these issues to your satisfaction.

Define the reasons you want to give him another chance.

Among the best reasons to reconcile are that you've always cared about him, that you feel you've both grown emotionally, and that you're willing to acknowledge your own contributions to the breakup.

Seattle Weekly's "Dategirl" columnist and book author Judy Mc Guire cautions that women often rush back into the familiar arms of a former boyfriend because they're lonely, depressed, discover they're pregnant, or have just been dumped by someone else.

None of these, she says, are good reasons to date him.

Find out whether your ex is as interested in getting back together as you are.